What is motivation? Motivation is the willingness and desire to do something. When you have motivation you tend to push forward and do what is needed to ensure the end result you want.
Motivation isn’t something that is constant and never ending. You have to find motivation and hold on to it. You have to have a purpose in life to keep the momentum going so you don’t lose that motivation. When you lose that motivation you begin to feel lost and emotions begin to take over. You not only feel lost but you feel defeated, angry and frustrated. You begin to think “what’s my purpose in life?!?!” “What am I supposed to do now?!?!” What do you do? Who do you turn to? What’s your next step? How do you push forward and get back that motivation?
If you’re on the sideline, witnessing someone lose motivation little by little, what are you supposed to do? How do you approach the situation? What steps can you take to help someone get back on track?
I have some suggestions of what I think a person should do to help. I’m not saying this is the best way to handle it but I do believe it’s one way to handle it.
First, help find the root of the problem. Find out why they lost motivation. Is it because they lost a loved one? Is it because they lost their job? Did they gain weight and have lost their self-esteem? HELP FIND THE ROOT OF THE PROBLEM!
Second, ask questions. Find out how they lost someone (i.e. breakup, death, etc.). Find out how they lost their job. Find out why they gained the weight (i.e. depression, stress, health, etc.). Get answers to the underlying issue. This is the only way to determine how you can proceed. ASK QUESTIONS!
Third, provide help/support. Whether it’s emotional support or psychological help, provide support. Help them understand what has happened and why it has happened. Help them get a clearer understanding of the situation. Allow them to talk out their issues and concerns. Give them a safe place to vent. Point them in the direction of a therapist or a psychologist… someone they can speak to who will not be biased and who can provide a clear and unbiased assessment of their sitstuion as well as some advice on how to move forward and overcome the obstacle in their path. PROVIDE HELP/SUPPORT!
Finally, be patient! As someone sitting on the sidelines it’s easy for you to say “get over it”. It’s not that simple and clean cut for the individual going through this issue. It’s an internal struggle and something that takes time to overcome. Just have patience and stay by their side. BE PATIENT!
In life, there are no perfect answers for everything that is troubling someone. There’s no “one way” to handle things and every one handles things at their own pace, in their own way. That doesn’t mean that you can’t offer support and understanding although it may not be easy for you either.
Just remember… Everything happens for a reason! Be kind and be patient and things will work out the way they’re meant to.
Much Love, Hugs & Kisses!